After the positive feedback and questions from my last post regarding modesty, here is a follow-up piece. Many have expressed an interest in dressing modestly, but don't know how to start. Here are a few tips that can help!
*Remember, this is a process. In my opinion, it is healthiest to do this step-by-step, not overnight. Personally, it took me around 6 years (since I started learning about it) to put into practice full-time.
1. Start Small: Wear skirts once a week in a place where you feel comfortable. For me, the days I would be going to Queens College I wore skirts. There was a very accepting crowd and it was easy to feel like I wasn't an outcast. Eventually, dress modestly, twice a week and so on.
2. Summer Time: Same with the skirts, start small. Move from sleeveless shirts to cap sleeve, then when you're ready a longer sleeve that's bicep length, and when you're ready 3/4 sleeve. Don't rush!
3. IG: Follow modest fashionistas on social media to get inspired and details on where to find such looks. Here are some accounts on Instagram to check out: @fabologist, @tzniutstyle24, @modestlyfab, @the_modestmom, @fashionisha, @stylismodesty, @halachicallyhaute, @tzniut, @myfashionologybyrl, @the_modest_shopper, @tzniutforyou, @themodgame, @lilmissmodest, @modest_rebel, @the_chicleak
Note: You will also find inspiration beyond Instagram in the media. My current obsession is First Lady Melania Trump's powder blue Ralph Lauren inauguration dress, gloves, and heels. So Jackie O, absolutely love the look!
4. Declutter: Re-assess the items in your wardrobe. Some pieces may be salvageable (like a sleeveless dress that can be worn with a long-sleeve collared button down underneath), others may not be. Pick and choose the items you find to appropriately reflect your inner self.
5. Shop 'til You Drop: I've been introduced to some great stores (in the New York area) just by chit-chatting with my friends. Some stores are specifically created for women leading a fashionable and modest life, like @mayasplace, @fameoncentral, and @debbiescloset. You can even check out @Zara and @HM they have some beautiful and affordable modest pieces too!
6. Personal Touch: Glam up or dress down your look with your signature accessories. Remember, you are still the same person, you have just chosen to dress differently. So, add your favorite heels or handbag and make your outfits your own. This is the best way to combine your "past" fashion choices with your new style.
7. Enjoy the Process: Keep in mind that you aren't losing any part of yourself, you are improving! Have fun putting outfits together! Go shopping with your girlfriends! Enjoy every second of it, because you are WORTH IT!
Keep smiling,
Kimberly Malka
